Trying something different

I could rant yet again about Sandy, but I'm sure you are tired of hearing me rag on the kid and have made your own opinions about my parenting abilities. But I will say this, Mike & I are trying something new. With a help of a friend (and you know who you are) we realized that we can't make Sandy do her homework or hand it in. We extended her bedtime and told her that we were no longer going to argue with her about doing her homework. She knows what needs to be done and when it needs to be turned in. We will help her if she needs it, all she has to do is ask. But beyond that, she is on her own. We are done with the fights and snotty attitudes. We have told her that she has to get passing grades in three of her four classes and that if she fails any of them she will either have to take summer school (if the school even offers those classes during the summer) or she will have to repeat her freshman year. We don't know yet if the Air Force has minimum requirements grade wise to get in or if she fails any grade how that will effect her ability to get into the Air Force If she ends up taking summer school then she will be missing out on some time with her sisters and the fun things we will do with them. She won't be entirely left out but I won't sit at home with Tara and Elisa while Sandy is in summer school. The kid has to learn the hard way on her own.