Ignoring house rules

I got really angry with Sandy this evening. We have a little candle that our friend gave us for Christmas and for weeks Sandy has been wanting to light it up. I kept telling her that I didn't want it lit. I liked it the way it was. Well she took it upon herself to light it. Her reasoning was that she wanted to know what it would smell like. I told her it wouldn't smell any different then the solid candle. She deliberately disobeyed me. She told Mike that she wanted to light it for our romantic dinner she was going to fix. Which she never did as she doesn't really know how to cook and Mike told her to leave the candle alone. Sometimes I just want to shake her and ask her what she was thinking. If her CO told her not to touch something she would listen to him, but not us. We all know that we have these rules of the house just so Sandy can ignore them. I am soo tired of telling her something and having her ignore it. I told her that if she can't listen to my rules I won't take her out anywhere. I don't need a 15 yr old daughter deciding that she wants to take off on Mom at the mall just because she doesn't like Mom's rules. I won't have it and I won't take her anywhere until she can prove to me that she respects me and will listen to my rules.

I will be going to my church circle meeting. That consists of a bunch of ladies getting together, laughing, talking, praying and studying the bible. It's a lot of fun and it gets me out of the house and away from Mike for a few hours. I also have a luncheon this Saturday that I will be at all morning. We will be served Continental breakfast and a special lunch. Should prove fun.