Misc blog 2

Tomorrow is the big day. Mac will officially become an "it". He will not be a happy camper tomorrow morning when his brother and sister get fed and he doesn't. He was not allowed any food or water after 10:00 p.m. and about an hour after being fed he was sniffing around the areas where we normally have water dishes. He had this very confused look on his little face, like "where did the water go? I know it was here before". It didn't stop him from jumping on the counter to get after the tea pitcher I was bleaching. So I sprayed him in the face with the sink nozzle. He looked so bedraggled and funny. He looked like he had a mohawk in between his ears.

Yesterday Mike and I did not make it to church. Well we made it to church and sat through about thirty minutes of Sunday School. Mike messed up his back and was in more pain then usual. I didn't sleep well either, so I think we looked pretty pathetic. I talked Mike into going home before services. He felt bad and kept apologizing to me and I kept telling him that he has nothing to be sorry about. It's not like he set out to mess up his back.

Sandy got some candy from her prayer partner the other day and we told her she was not to eat any unless we gave her permission. I discovered today that she had been into it and ate one piece. Now I know that doesn't sound too bad, but considering we have been having battle after battle with her not listening to us, not doing as she was told and not following house rules, this is a big deal for me. I ate her remaining piece of candy and threw out the cheesy container they came in and I am waiting for her to discover that her candy is gone. She wants us to trust her but she continues to break the rules and ignore what she is told. At this rate she will be lucky if she gets her drivers license when she is 30.

Saturday Woman's Retreat

Our ladies at the church held a woman's retreat.............quick sound the retreat. Sorry....................well not really, but it does sound strange. A woman's retreat, what were they retreating from you might ask. And it wasn't really what I would define as a retreat in the truest sense. We were all gathered in Ramsey Parlor. My definition of a retreat is to go away for longer then a few hours. There is a place called MO Ranch that I haven't been to yet but have heard that it is quite beautiful, relaxing and spiritually renewing. That is a someday. Anyway to get back to the retreat, it was very nice. There was a speaker by the name if Dr. Carol Stalcup who came to speak to us. She has talked at MO Ranch. The message she had was very good, but went on a little too long. When you are sitting in cold metal chairs, every minute seems like hours. The food was very good even if the serving of it was a bit chaotic. There was eight tables of seven and one table of five. Each table had its own server and the server was to bring the food to each person at their table. Well there was a miscommunication. The servers thought that they had to bring each dish out one at a time. With that many ladies it would have taken hours to get everyone served. So then it was announced that each server had to go and dish up each plate and each person had to get their own plate. There was a mad dash to the hall where the food was being dished out. The servers couldn't get to the food for all the ladies standing waiting for them to dish up their food. Everyone eventually got served their lunch but the so called caterer did not know how to count and did not make enough desserts. It didn't really matter much to me as I am trying to loose weight, but some of the ladies who got served a different dessert were not too happy. The planning and execution of this retreat left a little to be desired but it was a fun time. So I was glad I went. It also gave me a chance to get away from Mike and Sandy for a few hours.

Double rant

I saw in the Dallas Morning News today that a sicko in Pittsburgh, who was angry at his almost 2 yr old daughter, hit her hard enough to knock her unconscious and left her to die outside in single digit temperatures. She was found at an abandoned playground about a 10 min walk from her home. He is charged with criminal homicide, kidnapping, false reports and simple assault. Simple assault Gracie? What pray tell is simple about ANY assault, let alone an assault against an innocent and helpless toddler. His story is that she got up before him and he could not get her to go back to sleep. So he hit her so hard that she hit her head and was knocked unconscious. Then this Daddy of the year wrapped her in a blanket and left her still breathing beside railroad tracks near a bridge. She was wearing a sweater and a diaper. The police found her footprints in the snow, so she got up and wandered around. Authorities could only guess as to how long this poor baby survived in temperatures that hovered around 2 degrees. It took two days to find her body. And if that isn't bad enough, this (I'll be nice and say jerk) was in custody for another charge of sexually abusing another child shortly before this baby died. My take on all of this is that this asshole (sorry, I can't call him anything else) confessed to hitting and abandoning this poor child in single digit temperatures. He is guilty and should be sent to prison in general population and let all the cons know what he did. It won't be long before the taxpayers will no longer be supporting this sick child abuser.

I am also ticked over all the hoopla over Anna Nichole Smith's death. She was a "star" ala by a sleazy one. But that not withstanding, why is her autopsy being moved ahead of others who died before she did? I hate that celebrities get different treatment then us "common" folk when it comes to criminal matters. Whenever celebrities get into trouble all they get is slaps on the wrist and lots of media attention. However if you or I were to do the same thing we would get thrown in jail, have to wait for a trial date to be set and do whatever time is given to us. Celebrities seem to get off with a fine and community service. Something is wrong with this whole system. What is good for one should be good for all.

Ignoring house rules

I got really angry with Sandy this evening. We have a little candle that our friend gave us for Christmas and for weeks Sandy has been wanting to light it up. I kept telling her that I didn't want it lit. I liked it the way it was. Well she took it upon herself to light it. Her reasoning was that she wanted to know what it would smell like. I told her it wouldn't smell any different then the solid candle. She deliberately disobeyed me. She told Mike that she wanted to light it for our romantic dinner she was going to fix. Which she never did as she doesn't really know how to cook and Mike told her to leave the candle alone. Sometimes I just want to shake her and ask her what she was thinking. If her CO told her not to touch something she would listen to him, but not us. We all know that we have these rules of the house just so Sandy can ignore them. I am soo tired of telling her something and having her ignore it. I told her that if she can't listen to my rules I won't take her out anywhere. I don't need a 15 yr old daughter deciding that she wants to take off on Mom at the mall just because she doesn't like Mom's rules. I won't have it and I won't take her anywhere until she can prove to me that she respects me and will listen to my rules.

I will be going to my church circle meeting. That consists of a bunch of ladies getting together, laughing, talking, praying and studying the bible. It's a lot of fun and it gets me out of the house and away from Mike for a few hours. I also have a luncheon this Saturday that I will be at all morning. We will be served Continental breakfast and a special lunch. Should prove fun.

More money coming in

Mike finished his testing today and he can now start back to work. What is nice is that he can decide when he wants to work and he doesn't have to leave the house. The downside it that it tends to mess with his puter (which causes much swearing on Mike's part) and there is no guarantee of an hourly rate. His pay is based on how long he is on the phone with a customer. He did this before, while he was applying for disability. All we had coming in was my disability and it was not enough to pay the bills and food. So this job was a supplement to my check. It got us through until he got approved for his disability. So I figure this will be a supplement also. We also talked to Sandy psychiatrist and she told us she would help us get Sandy back on her own SSI. If we can get that back then we will have more money to pay bills and put aside for the girls coming out.

I got notification from the MO courts that unless we deposit $1000 my case will be dismissed. We don't have it and Brain won't pay for it. So I will make copies of the courts order to proceed as a poor person and hope that the judge will decide to proceed with the case anyway. It is the GAL (Guardian Ad Lidem) that wants the grand and she is the one who is petitioning the court to drop the case. Which makes me mad. It sounds to me like the GAL is saying that unless you pay my fee, then your case isn't important enough to investigate. I was under the impression that the state paid for this broad's fee. But then again this is Missouri and they have not come out of the 19th century. If this gets thrown out then I guess that it is a sign from God that He wants me to wait on getting custody. That is hard for me to do knowing what he is putting Tara through and the crap he is feeding Elisa.

Super Bowl Winner!

I actually won a bet! That doesn't happen very often. Mike lost two bets. He and Sandy had a bet also. They bet TV time or computer time against being a slave for an hour or two. Sandy decided on TV time. She now has to decide on what to watch. We told her that would depend on her homework. I now have to decide on where I want to go out to eat. Such hard decisions. There is Romas, a very good Italian restaurant, Joe's Crab Shack, a seafood joint that puts on live entertainment, Stan's Steakhouse, pretty self explanatory there, Angelina's, a Mexican joint or Remington's, a very snazzy seafood restaurant that Mike & I went to a few years ago. We came in third place during a game we played at a marriage course we attended at our church. We won a buy one get one free coupon. We went on Valentine's Day three years ago. I think I am in the mood for seafood seeing as we can't afford to eat it on a regular basis. So that would be Joe's Crab Shack or Remington's. I will let you know what I decide when I decide it.

Mike made very good Nachos and we had a fire going in the fireplace while the game was on. I wasn't sure I would win, especially when the Bears made a touch down thirty seconds in the game. There were so many fumbles going on it was hard to keep track of who had the ball. Mike & I decided that we are going to do this from now on. If we have kids at home we may even have side bets going on. Should prove interesting and fun.

Bacon's Super Bowl

Mike and I have decided that this year we will make this Super Bowl more interesting. Usually we just watch it for the commercials and not really focus on the game or who will win. This year we are doing things a little different. We are going to make nachos for dinner (nice and fattening to blow the diet) and each of us are going to pick a team. The bet is this. If Mike's team wins I make him whatever dinner he wants including dessert. If my team wins, when we can afford it, Mike will take me out to a restaurant of my choice without Sandy. I have picked the Indianapolis Colts and Mike has picked the Chicago Bears. I don't normally like to do these kinds of things because I don't like having my nose rubbed in it. I guess I am a sore looser. But I don't figure Mike will do that and it may be fun to be pitted against each other for a change. In the past we have picked one team on a lark together and rooted for them. This year it will be a little different. It might prove even more interesting if Mike & Sandy were to make their own bet.